By: Arielle Roberson | Girlfriend of Spencer Dinwiddie, Brooklyn Nets
Before I really get into this, I want to start off by saying that Spencer is such an AMAZING dad. He really, truly, loves Eli and it is the most heartwarming relationship to witness. The feeling is mutual - Eli loves Spencer so much - lights up whenever he sees him! When he comes back from a road trip or even from a long day at the gym, Eli looks at him, and just gives Spencer the biggest smile! Ugh, it’s sooo cute!
Whenever I get asked how involved Spencer it is as a father, I hesitate. It is a tricky question to answer. When it comes to people who work 9-5 jobs, get off, and see their kids after, he is as involved as any of them are (I would imagine). BUT, Spencer doesn’t work the “traditional” 9-5. Most would assume that he has so much more time to spend with Elijah. If you don’t know already, Spencer is one of THE most hardest working athletes out there (I’m not just bragging because he’s my man…it’s the truth). He spends a ton of time at the gym. His job essentially has no set hours...it can often seem nonstop. They are on the the road at a minimum 41 games through the season. That time away really adds up fast! But, we make the most of it - from the FaceTime dates and infinite baby pictures being exchanged! On game days, depending on when shoot-around is, he really only can give Eli about 3 hours of his attention, if that. Other days, he can spend upwards of 10 hours a day. But, regardless of the set timeframe, he does great with the time given.
It gets hard and frustrating (I try my best) because he does want more time with Eli. Then again he is also living out his dream and providing for our family. It’s a give and take situation. When those two are together, they have a blast. If you have not already read between the lines, he is basically the fun parent. I get to be/do everything else - the dirty work (diapers, feeding, crying, etc.). I know what I signed up for and I would not trade it for the world. This dynamic doesn’t work for everyone, but it does for us.
All in all, Spencer does the best that he can with the cards he is dealt, and it’s very admirable. I could not ask for a better father to our son. Thank you Spencer!