Hey Now, You're An All-Star
By: Haley Huestis | Married to Josh Huestis, Player for Austin Spurs
Girls, we made it! We survived until All-Star break! I’d be lying if I said this isn’t one of my favorite times of the year. I get to spend a whole week with my husband sans basketball, get some good R&R, and there’s no more fear of having to move mid-season…YAY!
Josh and I look forward to this break every year. It’s the one time of year we get to spend good quality time together without worrying about training or the million other things we should be doing. It’s the one week each year we dedicate to us. Thus far, Mexico has been our favorite All-Star location because it’s easy to get to, the weather is usually perfect, and we feel like we get the most bang for our buck. Not to mention, it seems to offer the best atmosphere for our goals of break which are quality time and some good ole’ rest and relaxation.
With that said, this year has been a little different for us. Josh is currently playing for the Austin Spurs who are the reigning G-League Champs and because they are the champs, they had the opportunity to play in the 2019 FIBA Intercontinental Cup in Brazil, which just so happened to be over break. AND after their week-long trip to Brazil, they go straight to California for another 8 days (because of course they do). Instead of wallowing in self-pity for the 16 days he’ll be gone, I decided to meet him in California and make the best of the time we will get together.
In all honesty, I wasn’t happy when I found out we wouldn’t be getting an All-Star break, but after some reflection I realized being upset wasn’t going to change the schedule and the only thing we can do is make the best of the situation. In this league, a lot of things are out of our control, a lot of things are decided by other people, but what we do have control over is how we respond to the situations and circumstances. Self-pity can result in a lot of wasted time (trust me, I have tried it), so the only thing we can do is make the best of the situations we’re dealt. Sometimes, we will be dealt good ones, and sometimes we will be dealt bad ones, but as long as you’re making the best of each situation, then no time goes to waste.
Speaking of no time going to waste, I have acquired what I consider to be some valuable advice after several years in the league that can help to make the most out of the week off. And while I don’t consider myself a pro or get to utilize these tips this year, I feel like it’s only right to share the tips I have learned in my time.
Plan your break based on what’s most important to you. There’s no right or wrong way to do All-Star break, but there’s also nothing worse than feeling like you wasted it. So, before you decide what you’re doing, talk about what is important to each of you (yes, this means you have to talk to your man…sorry). After our first break together, I realized it is just as much for me as it is for him. Sure, some people might think I am perpetually on vacation because I don’t work and it should be his decision, but we all know this lifestyle is far from a vacation and there are A LOT of sacrifices we make for our guys. Because of this, I truly believe this time should be for the both of us.
Get there ASAP. I’m all about maximizing this time off, so we make sure to get to our destination as soon as possible. If Josh’s last game before break is a road game, I prefer to travel to that city with him for a couple reasons. First, it means break starts as soon as the game ends, so bonus if it’s in a fun city. Second, it’s much easier to convince him to take a 6am flight to our destination if he isn’t getting home at 3am that same morning from the road trip. So, to us, it’s worth it to spend an extra night in whatever city he’s in and fly to our destination from there.
Come home a day before the guys need to be back. If you’re a risk taker, kudos to you. But I am not and I HATE unnecessary stress. Because of this, we always plan to return at least a day before Josh has to be back. This day adds some room for delayed or canceled flights and gives him time to readjust to the time-zone and get back into a normal routine (and time for me to do laundry).
Don’t go too far. This goes back to maximizing time and not creating too much unnecessary stress. It might be tempting to travel to Europe or go from the East Coast to Hawaii, but because time is limited and changing time zones is hell, I strongly suggest staying within reason. We use travel time to help us sort out if the destination is worth it and our rule is the travel must be no more than half a day. Like I mentioned before, Mexico is our favorite destination because it’s easy to get to from the cities we have been in and has little to no time changes from our home base.
Don’t stay home! Okay, I’m not going tell you what to do, but really, don’t stay home, even if that means a one-night “stay-cation” in a local hotel or a quick road trip. Both you and your hard-working man deserve time to unwind and we all know that it’s impossible to stay in our homes and not end up doing a chore or two or all of them. So, get out of your place, and spend some quality time together.
I hope these tips are as helpful to you as they have been to me and don’t be afraid to share your best All-Star tips in the comments below. Now, let’s just hope the rest of season flies by!