Keeping up with the jones'
By: Arielle Roberson | Girlfriend of Spencer Dinwiddie, Brooklyn Nets
Being in the public eye can surely make one feel the need to compete and boast about their life. You’ll always want to put your best foot forward and make a great impression. But, is it really necessary? I think with the rise of social media, it makes others feel like life has to be picture perfect. No one person has it all together. Whether you are the richest person in the world or even the most perceived happiest person in the world, we all fight our own battles and are never as “perfect” to ourselves as we are to other people. Am I right?!
This leads me to wonder about the use of social media. Do you feel like you are oversharing your life? If so, do you feel like you are doing it to please and even compete with someone else subconsciously? I think secretly, whether we like to admit it or not, we all have been guilty of it at some point.
For me, I used to feel like I always had to be extra and that I had to post pictures of whatever event I went to and who I went with. It gave me a feeling of validation. Honestly, I think I have outgrown it. I no longer feel the need to post that I am at every single game of Spencer’s. I no longer feel the need to post about when we go to cool places. I no longer feel the need to post long, sappy, and overdone captions anymore just to please anyone. I do all of that in person and I don’t need others to validate my importance or my place. However, I still do share. I share a lot of what I want you to know. I think the difference is that it's not coming from a place of “Hey! Look at me and look at what I am doing and who I am doing it with!” It comes from me just honestly thinking something is genuinely nice enough to me and I want to share it with the world regardless of what they think. I post for ME and myself. Not for fans. Not for strangers. Not for validation. But simply, purely for me. If y’all like it, cool. If not, that’s cool too. You will see me share pictures of myself, my family, my son, my dog, dates, experiences and so on. But, what I won’t do is post looooong overdone captions professing my undying love and things I haven’t told my partner or family yet. I want my public pages to be genuine and not false advertising. Not fake love. Real me and real thoughts. I don’t have to compete with anyone just because of what is expected from a WAG or anyone associated with a celebrity. I am simply me and that’s all you will ever get.